If we want to be Millionaires we have to give up this one thing
We all want to have Millions in our bank. That is what we are working for. Are we not?
Millions in Retirement accounts, Millions in savings, Millions saved for kids in Roth IRA, Savings and so much more. Millions in Real Estate.
I too wanted that vision.
But at the moment I don't even feel like I will ever achieve it.
Because I am always giving my self excuses.
Excuses that Because I had no support while I was in my pregnancy and early childhood ages we never got to save money.
Excuses that because I had unsupportive inlaws and parents I ended up doing everything alone and bore the brunt of it.
Excuses that no matter what I try I am never going to be enough.
Yes I know about all the positive self talk and self motivation but can you imagine not having one person in your corner who can say I am there for you.
Even my own Mother I feel distant from. Why? Because I don't know what's in her mind but in my mind she always was preferential towards her youngest son.
With inlaws it is expected that they will treat the daughter in law differently so there is nothing to say there but truly when you go through it individually it hurts so much like me that its been 6 years to all this and I am still hurt to this point.
Yes these are excuses but what has happened is in all my struggle it has been more about what I never got in comparison to others.
Yes I try and make an effort. But I am not that charismatic as I would truly want to be.
I am not that beautiful as I always envisioned myself to be with perfect features.
Ofcourse we are taught to accept our inner beauty and all but those with all that beauty and the skill they stay far ahead in the game.
Thats the excuse that I tell myself all the time too.
I am just not enough.
Then I look at my kids whom I can say I have raised single handedly without a village because there was no other way and think they don't deserve this.
They never deserved this but because of me they got this?
It cannot always be my fault? Can it?
When you give your 100% 200% and that is still never enough for those that potentially loved you at some point ... does it even make sense.
How is a mother Okay with not talking to her daughter for days?
How is a Mother in Law okay with living comfortably with her daughters after creating all the drama for the daughter in law simply because she didn't want to support her or take care of her kids- the grandkids of the family.
And why am I the only person in this situation.
These are all the excuses that keep staying in my mind repeatedly.
We all have some excuse that we tell each other time and again for not accomplishing our goals.
And I know none of you are ever going to be as miserable as I was, managing pregnancy single handlely, making appointments, keeping appointments, getting up after pregnancy, neither mother nor mother in law every tried to understand me, its a lot to process.
But its been 6 years and I am still stuck there.
Is that why I am unable to be a millionaire?
Because I did not have the support I required and deserved?
And because of that lack I ended up in this cycle of hurt and anger and taking care of kids without any help, not knowing how to make it work?
Is this just me? Or do women actually have a good life.
Or am I looking at this completely differently because of the hurtful experience I got.
When you get some of your needs met you can still function and become loyal to the person who has been filling those needs.
But when a parent has multiple kids and one child acts up greedy and manipulative the other child suffers by slowly losing out on the parent as the parent tends to get attached more to the one who is manipulative and providing for the parent.
Its not that you as the other child was not providing. But when a parent has a preference or a dislike for one of the life partners usually a woman who married her son, that turns into this.
Why am I talking about this here?
Because this is a fundamental difference between those who achieve millions and those who don't.
I am not interested in talking about those who are privileged.
I am talking to those like me, who do everything that is possible in their hands and still end up feeling detached from their parents, caregivers, friends or siblings. And its not because they did not care.
Its simple because they cared and loved but chose not to manipulate or didn't know how to manipulate.
How do we become millionaires?
How do we make it?
While embracing our past our struggle and not detaching completely from the relationships but staying functionally alive in the relationship.... is this the right approach?
Or complete detachment?
What do we do in an Indian Household where no matter what you tell to your husband you are always wrong?
The older adults that I have encountered in mylife time (primarily mother and mother in law) never once truly supported me whole heartedly.
Yes there was a time back in 2022 and 2023 where I would not have survived if I didn't have my mother supporting whatever little she could.
But today her entire time goes only to the kids with whom she is living. Is this fair to me?
I cried for my kids not getting attention but it didnt make a dent.
I never cried for affection to my mother in law because right from the start I saw she was using the affection for her daughters and her daughters children as leverage against me to show me look what you are missing out.
And I want to say to all of them staying in my head F*** O** from staying rent free in my mind. You don't say that to a mother right, your own parent. And its very difficult to cut off a parent completely especially in an Indian household no matter what they do. But if I had that supportive of a husband it would have been a different case.
See .... excuses..
I have to start telling myself these are excuses for not performing that are keeping me from getting that first million. Its difficult to get to that first million but not after that.
If you are here I applaud you for reading all the way. And I admire you.
If you subscribe to my blog I can tell you, there will never be a day you are not entertained or enlightened.
Because my offline personality may be boring but my online personality is just me raw, clear unfiltered.
And if you are a Book reader here are a few suggestions for you
The Millionaire Next Door: The surprising secrets of America's wealthiest
I will teach you how to be rich: No Guilt No Excuses Just a Six week program that works
Comments
Post a Comment