Its about why motherhood feels too hard

 Lets talk about how much we sacrifice for our kids and is it right to do so.

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I have been surrounded by a lot of women who single handedly have handled the kids. It has been going on for a while now. I have women around me to stick around for the kids and those who chose to stay.

Those who usually choose to leave infidelity is usually the cause of the same.

But what if after explaining again and again your reasons you hear nothing but distance how far can you take that.

My parents marriage was never the ideal but I never really paid attention to it nor learned much about it until much later. And it was not a marriage that I did or did not understand but I see so many of us have constant disapprovals but it becomes impossible to leave.

Why are we as Indian women so domicile.

I gave my heart and all to everything and what I ended up with is the blame of not taking care of the inlaws because I didnt do thins thier way and spoke. Now after all this everyone is having a wonderful time but on my expense.

My husband gets to work morning to night, I stay home and take care of kids while on unemployment currently. Before that I worked from home and took care of kids. And before that I used to work on site and took care of kids. 

I see these couples where they give so much importance to their wifes and treat them with so much love, no matter what she says they are always there for them, from pregnancy to birth to everything else, they feel feminine and in power. 

I never truly got to experience that. And I kept crying all these years hoping for things to change and to have some relief. 

To this day I take care of the cleaning of the house but when it comes to the man it is optional. 
When I speak to other women who are older they justify that taking care of the home is a women thing.

But I never wanted this.

Agreed that the way I have made things work I do get the occasional relief when I rant about it sometimes when I dont even rant about it. 
But it is not enough for me.

I don't like doing all the meager work to be honest. Its a lot of work.

And I don't even know how and who kept the bathrooms clean when I used to live with my mom. 

I am sure it was her, I don't know.

But Now I do.

But I don't want to be the one doing that.

I make sure My son helps me throw the garbage when I have to tell him multiple times. He has become his Dad but I make sure it gets done no matter what after how many trials it takes.

But thats the problem. Even as women if we try to change this male generation very few truly change.

What do you think are some of the ways this can be changed.

Let me know in comments.